Sex and Relationships

Why Save Sex?

New relationships are so exciting – and it is tempting to become involved sexually. But have you ever stopped to think what could come with that choice?

No method of ‘safe sex’ is 100% reliable – there is always a risk.

Anyone who wants you to have sex without commitment is making a statement about themselves. They are saying that they are willing to risk your health, risk pregnancy, and even risk your emotions to fulfil their sexual desires. This can seem flattering at first glance. All of us wants to be desired, but how long will this desire last and is that enough for you?

When you imagine a great relationship what do you expect? Acceptance, Support, Faithfulness? Is this what you are getting from a non-committed sexual relationship? If not, you might want to ask yourself why you are settling for less than you desire.

You are more likely to attract a person with those qualities when you possess them yourself.

Faithfulness begins long before you say ‘I do’:

• It begins as a promise you make to yourself — to be a person of faithful character —even before you meet your future life partner.
• It is a promise you make to your partner when you become exclusive.
• It is a vow you make to your partner when you get married.

Why all these promises? Because if you truly love someone, you would never risk hurting them.

Before getting involved sexually, stop and ask yourself these questions:

• Are you acting like the person your future life partner deserves?
• Are you settling for less than you desire?
• Are you willing to stand up for your future happiness?

If you are already involved sexually, it is never too late to change your mind. It can be tough to break out of a negative sexual relationship, but remember that our door is always open.

LIFE’s counsellors are here for you if you want to talk. We never judge, we just listen, and of course it’s confidential.